the energetics of wanting things when your life is already incredible

are you blocking the universe from sending you more goodies? and what does it truly mean to be in overflow?

I am exploring the energy of "it's not a need but simply a want".

When I run my business, and live my life from the POV of survival, where there is no other option but success, I tend to make shit happen. Because I have no other choice. I narrow my focus, I get scrappy, I get tenacious, I don’t take “no” for an answer.

But, what happens when the thing I want "would be really fucking cool", but I feel almost indifferent to receiving it?
Like “Ya that would be great”, but I almost can’t grasp it or envision clearly what life would be like if I received it.

In the law of attraction, there is the importance of being "unattached to the outcome" of one’s desire.

But what if I feel like I could take it or leave it?
Or even if I got it, I wouldn't know what to do with it or where to put it?

I think there is such a beautiful opportunity for peace and attunement in this scenario. The opportunity to have a clear conversation with the Universe and tell it that I am so incredibly full up in my life, bursting at the seems with satisfaction that I don’t need anything else to be happy.

But also, if the Universe gave me more that’d be pretty fucking rad, too.

When I could have something that would cause my life to overflow with the things I desire - literally, my vessel would overflow because I wouldn't know where to put it, things would have to shift in order to make room for it.

It's a beautiful opportunity bc it's a practice in being open to overflow.
If I don't get it, it'd be fine, life's good as it is, I don't have to let go of anything or make room for anything because I feel full in my life right now.

If I did get it, wow, now I’m actually getting everything I’ve dreamed of and there is a call to realign, reorganize, and reconnect to the things I truly desire.

Which, if you think about it, is actually the harder choice of the two. Choosing to continue to be open to bursting out of my seems, constantly having my cup overflow so that I’m spilling my sparkling water everywhere is really hard.

No one talks about that.

You hear all the time, “Be open to overflow!” but no one talks about how much re-evaluating you have to do to actually welcome in more than you can handle.

What does it actually mean to be in overflow?

To me, it means facing some hard truths. Am I keeping things in my life that aren’t serving my highest good? Am I allowing myself to settle or play small? Can I sit in the energy of “This almost feels too good, I don’t know if I can handle this.”?

In fact, this energy shows up a lot in my sex life. And I have known that this is something I’ve wanted to work on for awhile now.

This energy of not wanting to be in the spotlight for too long. Or like I’ve taken up enough space, let me pass the mic to someone else so they can share. Being able to accept a LITTLE praise and encouragement but not too much and feeling squirmy when it seems to go on a little longer than feels comfortable.

Does this sound familiar? Please tell me I’m not the only one 😭.

Right now my life feels great. If nothing changed, I wouldn't feel any type of way about it. I'm working 3 jobs (it was 4, but I just released one), and I am having so much fun learning about my trade (finance) from two different, excellent financial professionals, I feel very much in my internal and external Spring.

Everything is fresh and new and blooming 🌸.

And here my energy could go two different ways...it could be open to be in overflow (even if that means not having room and having to shift things to welcome the new in).

Or I could start to close off my energy to anything new, because I feel I'm at capacity. I could start to energetically block the deeper, wider call of overflow and push away new opportunities and money bc I'm signaling to the Universe that I don't want to have to rearrange.

Neither path is better or worse. It's all about what I feel like my nervous system can handle. Sometimes being at capacity is where I’m at. And it's ok to signal to the Universe that I've been expanding a lot recently and I’m good on growth for a bit.

And sometimes I feel open and curious to what else could go right. How hot and steamy can it really get?

This second path, the path of overflow, is where I meet my clients.
The intersection of "my life is good!" and "what could make it better?"
Hint: it has to do with how you receive praise, compliments, and attention in bed.

Can you receive full orgasms from your partner(s)? Can you fully take up space and be in the spotlight of your accomplishments? Can you accept standing ovation after standing ovation without shifting the applause to someone else?

I’m actually a little sadistic and I love watching my clients squirm while we work on being in overflow and I shower them with attention and praise and love and support. It’s because I know how fucking good it is for them!

Interested in coaching? Book a free call and let’s chat. My DMs and my inbox is always open 🔥.