are you in a hot & steamy relationship with money?
what type of relationship with money do you actually desire?
As with any relationship, there are varying degrees of intimacy.
acquaintance ➺ casual friend ➺ good friend ➺ bff
acquaintance ➺ casual date ➺ bf/gf stage ➺ married/committed
You get to decide how intimate you’d like to be with money. How hot and steamy, if it’s a booty call relationship, casual date, or if it’s an all-consuming passion.
To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with any type of relationship with money. They are all valid. This is simply an invitation to get curious if your current relationship with money is what you want it to be.
Think about when you start dating someone. You fully immerse yourselves in one another. You communicate through multiple platforms (texting, phone calls, liking each other's posts, snap chatting nudes). You see each other a few times a week. Fancy date night, brunch and farmers market, casual movie night in.
It’s not just about sex (although that’s huge), it’s about figuring out what makes another human special.
If your goal is a hot, erotic (maybe eventually committed) relationship with money, then why not immerse yourself in it?
I hosted a Masterclass several years ago called the Quantum Money Masterclass and in it I talked about the four states of being with money.
This is how I explained it:
↠ Receiving - allowing others to live out their love languages and allowing yourself to be in a state of being spoiled and loving it. The deservingness of receiving and the deservingness of being doted on.
↠ Having - The art of overflow and what its like to not be in a constant state of need or want. The calm confidence that there will always be more than enough. Breaking the cycle of just barely enough, just barely skating by and then having a lot, just to immediately spend it all or manifest an emergency. “I’m so glad I had that!” and the cycle continues.
↠ Being - Owning your opulence, luxury, and being unapologetic in it.
↠ Giving - stepping into empowered release. Bold confidence that it will always return and knowing that you are making room for a 10 fold return.
I like to think of my relationship with money like a relationship with my partner(s):
↠ Receiving Money - Sex and physical intimacy, being open to being cared for.
↠ Having Money - Building trust, security, and safety. You are now coupled and you can relax and unclench your butthole.
↠ Being with money - the part where you realize that you can be totally yourself, weird and quirky, and they’ll still be there
↠ Giving (spending or circulating) money - you choose each other and you know when they walk out the door, they will come back.
The biggest parallel I want to make though, is that if you’re in a relationship, that fact doesn’t fluctuate from moment to moment. You ARE in a relationship. It’s a state of BEing. And (usually) you don’t just flip it on and off.
You can be casually dating, seeing each other now and then, but once you step into “official” it’s like a blanket. Not like a light switch.
Its the same with money.
The states of being I listed above are ever-present. You are always in one of them or many of them or all of them. Meaning you are always in some sort of relationship with money.
Every single area of my life has improved since I began this play with money.
Money holds power, privilege, validation, worthiness, lineage, and so much more.
I'm not saying you have to make money your god. But ignoring it, and pretending you can live without it or outside of it is unsustainable.
Unless you literally move to a barter community which, more power to you, I've thought about doing that many times and I would highly recommend the book Sacred Economics to you if that’s your decision.
The point is, dating money is fun.
You don't have to worship it like I do, I just choose this way of interacting with it because of the work I do and because I'm a heathen.
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Check out the landing page here or send me a DM directly if you know you’re a fuck yes.