(archetype series) how to embody the boss bitch ceo archetype
is it all matching power suits and corner offices in high rise buildings?
Welcome to the first installment of the Archetype Embodiment Series.
Disclaimer: Archetypes are highly subjective and personal. Our vision of a particularly archetype might vary wildly so trust your first intuition and use the tools I give you to customize your own experience. Sometimes I might use pronouns that resonate with me. I think this piece is an important part of identifying with these archetypes, so I encourage you to use whatever pronouns or gendered words that feel good for you. Maybe these archetypes are even non-gendered for you, that is totally acceptable.
Grab a pen and paper or head to the notes app on your phone or simply explore with your consciousness with me. The steps below will largely be the same across the whole series with subtle differences. Think of those differences like little surprises or pops of enchantment to look for in every post.
I’ll share my vision of this archetype at the end.
Imagination
What do you think of when you conjure images of a powerful CEO?
Is it an old white dude in a musty suit? Is it Elon Musk? Is it someone more obscure? It could even be a formless feeling or emotion.
What qualities is this person known for, good or bad? How do they relate to and circulate their money in this world?
How does your body react when you hold those images in place in your mind’s eye? Does it feel itchy, uncomfortable, empowered, inspired, unphased?
Start to take note of your overall attitude toward this archetype.
Is it mostly positive or mostly negative? Of course, you could have very little charge around it at all. None of these are better or good or worse or right or bad or wrong. It’s just data at this point.
Weave your vision of a powerful CEO like a piece of art with your pen/fingers/imaginary paintbrush.
Transform/Customize
Begin to mold the archetype in your hands, picking and choosing the aspects that feel supportive, removing those that don’t, and adding pieces that you think would be fun or challenging or fulfilling.
We’re playing the Sims here.
You might choose to add the character trait encouraging or good-listener and remove stubborn and always-gets-the-last-word.
You may change their gender, their attire, their attitude, their favorite things, their hobbies, their spending habits, etc.
After this step, you may feel dissociated or unattached to this CEO version 2.0. Most likely, that’s because you are lacking an irl person or even a fictional character who mirrors this new and improved CEO. You have no real world evidence that this person exists or could be successful doing the work you want to do. That’s why this next step is so important.
Expand
If this step gets skipped, it will be a much longer road to embodiment and integration. But don’t worry, this gets to be fun!
This is the step where you start to attach this fictitious amalgamation of characteristics to real world people, smells, sounds, emotions, tastes, and experiences.
That includes doing “research” by watching movies, reading articles, creating vision boards, reading books, creating playlists and building a mental filing cabinet full of evidence. You will start notice it everywhere.
Start to associate this alter-ego of you with the aspects you chose above in the Customize step.
Notice the real-life CEOs that encapsulate those aspects and expand your mind to the possibility that it could be you.
Journal out why it can’t be you and then use the data you’ve collected from your research to counter those arguments.
This will be a work in confidence, but it gets quicker, I promise.
The more you identify with your real-world expanders, their background, family life, home state, the nature of their work, the easier it will be to see yourself embodying the qualities you hold in such high regard.
Integration
Expansion and integration can happen simultaneously. And you can actually out-integrate your expansion. Meaning, if you get so good at integrating the CEO doll you’ve built, your inner confidence can become so strong that you don’t necessarily need an irl example to help you “see to believe”. Your inner belief that you can be who you want outweighs the need for anyone else to be your role-model.
Integration = action = making a habit = making the behavior second nature
Like brushing your teeth.
Start eating like, dressing like, moving like, exercising like, spending like a CEO. Eat their favorite foods or wear their unique clothes when you know you need to be in CEO mode.
Make this a ritual, a meditation, a practice.
It will get so easy that you can melt into CEO mode just from one smell, one taste, or one song.
My CEO Ho
I know you’re a nosey lil slut and you’re dying to get a peak into my closet so I’ll share with you what my boss bitch CEO looks like. Don’t worry if our images look completely different, that’s supposed to happen.
She is feminine in her grace & her poise & in the way she treats her clients & team.
She is confident and strong and patient.
She makes decisions with deft accuracy.
She asks for help when she is out of her element.
She relishes in slow, luxurious evenings with sparkling cider, chocolate covered pretzels, & a candle-lit bath.
She prioritizes pleasure in her business.
She wakes up to orgasms, long hot girl walks, & money.
She networks, she schmoozes, she is impressive.
Her masculine energy perfectly complements her business by delegating, preparing, & making boss moves. That same energy puts her in rooms of people that inspire her to be wildly delusional about how much money she can make & the type of impact she can make in her community with her money. Her aura is the G.O.A.T.
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