3 ways being a spoiled brat can change your life

and take you from desire ↠ fulfillment

I've really been healing what it means to be a spoiled brat for me.

I get what I want usually and it's been that way for basically my whole life. One of the things I’m grateful to my parents for is making it easy to get what I want.

They presented a clear path to take me from desire ↠ fulfillment.
Usually, all I had to do was ask. It gets to be that simple.
And even at its most complicated, it was never more than a few steps.

Something like; desire ↠ ask ↠ time ↠ money/action step ↠ fulfillment

My dad always told me that I could have or be whatever I want, and then modeled to me how simple that process could be. He never said it would be easy, hard work and follow through are required for the further out of reach desires, but it always starts with an ask.

I never saw a problem with always getting what I wanted until I got older and other people, friends and boyfriends I met in college, started telling me that it was a bad thing. I realized quickly that my life up until this point had been very different from the people I was meeting outside of my tiny Christian high school. I graduated with 25 people so it wasn’t a huge test group.

But also, you become much more self-aware after you leave high school. You have deeper conversations and you’re able to reflect more successfully.

Slowly I began to be ashamed of asking for something and then it actually coming through. It’s interesting how something can be so innocent until someone else’s beliefs pervert it.

It's been a tug and pull of feeling unapologetic about the things I desire but then hiding them or not being proud of them when I got them. When I would celebrate, there was always a qualifier, a warning.

“I’m not bragging but…”
“I know how this is going to sound…”
“Ok, don’t judge me…”

I didn't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or hear anything judgmental from them. I didn’t want them to feel differently about me.

That behavior led to me never truly basking in my accomplishments or having child like excitement for new toys or gifts. It was easy to just move onto whatever the next thing was. I didn’t allow myself the feeling of fulfillment that fill your whole chest, lungs, and belly. I saw my favorite people on Instagram crying with gratitude and that always confused me.

I craved that.

So, I began to shift things. The first thing I shifted was my relationship to my desires and what role money played in fulfilling them. If you’ve been around for awhile you might remember my old tagline “be rich unapologetically”.

I realized that the more deeply served I am by money, the more deeply of service money can be through me. Not only that, but also my desires are holy and purely worthy of fulfillment.

Being unapologetic about both the desires and the outcome allowed gratitude to deeply penetrate and saturate my body.

By working with my coach and with my pleasure practice to hold and love the girl who just wanted to have the things she wanted and instead was labeled a spoiled brat, I was able to integrate her and harness her.

By channeling my inner spoiled brat as an aware adult:

☼ I am more discerning, selective, and intentional about which desires I pursue
☼ My self worth is high - I ask confidently for things I desire
☼ I spoil the shit out of everyone I love bc I believe they deserve to get everyone they desire too

These days, I rarely suffer from shame around getting the things I want and I love being a spoiled brat. I believe that being a spoiled brat (intentionally) can be one of the most powerful archetypes you can work with!

If you have no idea where to start embodying your inner spoiled brat, I help my clients begin that work (play) everyday.

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